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Overview: Short stories – stories for children and teens


Talk about porn movies with teens: Pascal and porn films

  • Topic: Porn Movies

  • Content: A 14-year-old found in his brother’s bedroom, porn movies. Over time, he gets addicted to those porn movies and they start to blend into the real world. Ultimately, however, his feelings to Steffi a real girl from his school prevails.

Application:

Porn in the Internet - easy to find for kids
Porn in the Internet - easy to find for kids
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Many of the young people we are dealing with already had experience with porn material (secretly) and particularly boys. The curiosity in this age is great. However, not many people actually know that those images the young person views, impress themselves on their young mind for years to come and actually can have negative consequences. For everyone who wants to talk to the youth group about this topic, maybe because of a recent incident, might find this story useful as an entry into the thematic of porn. It is not an easy issue and should only be implemented by an experienced, adult youth leader. As a condition of the young people, I would require approaching this matter with seriousness and discipline. Otherwise, there is no use working through this issue if kids only make fun of it and take it as a laughing matter.

The story can be read or told. Various passages in the text may be altered, rewritten or mitigated, depending on how the respective youth worker can take the responsibility for it.

Story:

14-year-old Pascal comes home from school one afternoon and, once again, he is all on his own. His parents are both at work and his older brother Dominik is still at school.

As of recent, Pascal’s feelings are all confused. What adds to his condition is that he spoke to Steffi, a girl from school he has a crush on, just bevor coming home. Steffi looks cute and every time Pascal talks to her he has “butterflies” in his stomach. That’s the reason why he didn’t talk about his feelings to her yet. Right before, there was an excellent chance but Pascal, once again, did not say anything. That’s getting now really to him.

After Pascal had some Pizza from the microwave he wants to relax a little longer and read a few pages in his new “Spiderman” magazine. However, neither in his room nor in the living room can he find his magazine. Pascal realizes, Dominik must have taken it. He is upset that his brother always takes his stuff without asking. However, because Dominik is not home anyway, he can just go to his room and get the magazine. However, in his brother’s room, he can’t spot it anywhere either. “Maybe,” Pascal thought, he put it in his cupboard and starts to ferret to all his brother’s shelves. Finally, he finds something it in the bottom drawer hidden underneath the socks. It is not his Spiderman magazine but something else, which catches his interest. – It’s a pile of DVD’s. For a moment, Pascal is a bit irritated because usually all their movies are stored in the lounge room. However, when he takes a closer look at those movies he realizes quickly why his brother has hidden them so well. They are porn movies. Pascal has heard about them at school but never has actually seen one.

Curiosity gets the better of him and he opens one box. The images he sees almost take his breath away. Several women, one more provocative than the other and they are all naked! Pascal is so fascinated by the sight his penis immediately swells. Quickly he opens the next DVD box. "Wow! That's even hotter and quite obvious what they're doing." Although Pascal knows what sex is and also has a certain idea of how it all works, but he has never seen anything alike before. The thought that he actually could watch the porn makes him antsy. “2:25 pm, he calculates, “Dominik is at least away until 3 pm.” There is still enough time. He quickly decides to watch the second movie because apparently that’s getting right into sex.

His hands are shaking with excitement as he pushed the DVD into the recorder. However, what Pascal sees next almost caused him chills. After only a few seconds he sees a totally lush built blonde, completely undressed in the shower. The sight of her makes his penis in his trousers downright pulsate. Pascal has heard from school mates, that they masturbate at times or “getting one off” when they watch porn or look at naked women in magazines like the “Playboy.” For some “unknown” reason Pascal feels he just had to do the same. He pulls his trousers down and starts to play with his penis while watching a blond in the movie like magnetized. Pascal gets hot all over and a strange feeling overcomes him. Faster and faster he moves his hand down there until, all of a sudden he sees this white stuff coming out in front of his penis. "Aaah!" Pascal breathes heavily, he is still excited, but somehow relieved. For a few more moments he sits down on the sofa to calm down.

“Shit, the whole floor is full of the stuff!” Pascal scares terribly because he realizes that his brother will now be home every minute and that Dominik will immediately know, what he has done when seeing his sperms. (Pascal’s mum once explained that this white stuff is called sperm and is the seed of a man). Therefore, he cleans himself up, cleans the floor in the lounge room from his sperms with toilet paper and flushes it all down. Just when he comes back from the bathroom, he hears the key in the door. “Crap,” he thinks, “Dominik is already coming home!” Quickly he takes the DVD out of the recorder, puts it back into the box and runs upstairs, where he hides in all underneath the socks again. Just in time, before his brother walks into the room.

“Hey, Pascal! What are you doing in my room? You know that you have no business here!” Pascal’s face is bright red but luckily he can think of a good excuse: "I am looking for my new Spiderman. Did you take it? "

“Oh. Yes, I have.” Dominik opens his schoolbag and pulls out the magazine. “Man, that was damn close,” Pascal thinks as he goes back into the living room. In the next few weeks, Pascal goes more and more often to his brother’s room to excite himself with his brother’s DVD’s. Not for long and Pascal has become addicted to sex movies. He even goes so far that he withdraws from his friends who want to play football with him, only for one reason: Not to miss out on a few hours of he could devote himself to porn.

As with any other addiction, it did not take long for Pascal needing more and more porn to satisfy his needs. In the meantime, he knows his brother’s porn movies inside out. Every scene he has seen at least five times. Dominik does not buy any new movies anymore. Partly because they are expensive, partly because by now he has a steady girlfriend. Sometimes, when Pascal sees how happy they are he thinks of Steffi and how nice it would be if he could have such a beautiful relationship. However, in the recent weeks, he still has not succeeded to confess to Steffi his feeling. Pascal did not think that love can be such a complicated manner and is frustrated that he does not get closer to Steffi. Watching porn is so much easier. The women in the movies might not be real but they are ready at the drop of a hat and you don’t have to talk to them either. In the meantime, the by now 15-year-old Pascal has found another, inexhaustible source of porn - the Internet! Every minute he can spare he would sit in front of his computer looking for sex sites. He has to be very careful that he doesn’t get on sites where he has to pay dearly. But even so he can find his way around quickly and cleans the browsing history so that his parents won’t find out that he was on sex sites. The fascinating thing about the Internet is the quantity that he can download. Unlike his brother’s DVDs, he always finds always harder porn. Pictures of naked women by themselves soon don’t give his imagination hardly any incentive to masturbate anymore.

Despite this new source of his films, Pascal is not at all happy at all. Somehow, all he wants at the moment was to have such a great relationship like Dominik has with his girlfriend. Pascal also noticed that he turns to porn movies, particularly at times when he feels lonely. More and more he takes refuge as in an illusory world in which girls and women are nothing else but sex objects. Moreover, because of his frequent use of porn films his imagination has become so jaded that masturbation does not give him any real satisfaction anymore. He desires real sex -cost what it may. Therefore, things are taking their own course.

Once again he sees his brother cuddling with his girlfriend on the veranda. All of a sudden Pascal had an insight: “All this porn watching actually only made me lonely. I have lost contact with many people. I’d rather have a real girlfriend just like my brother.” After this insight, Pascal grows subdued.

“Maybe,” he contemplates, “I can have such a relationship as well. I just have to get a little encouraged.” Finally, Pascal gets his mobile phone and calls Steffi.

“Hello, Steffi. It's me, Pascal.”

“Hey, Pascal! Nice that you are calling me. How are you?”

“Good, thank you. The reason I am calling ... “ Pascal is yet again a little shy, " ... it's such a beautiful day today and I was wondering if we could ... if we could do something together. But of course, only if you don’t mind. "

“Man, Pascal!” Steffi is euphoric. "I thought you'd never ask me. Of course, I want to."

By now Steffi and Pascal are an item as well. They haven’t slept together yet because Steffi still wants some time, but Pascal is the 7th heaven. Holding Steffi in his arms and kissing her is a thousand times better than any porn movie ever could be.

Suggestions for questions to start a conversation:

  • Can you understand Pascal's curiosity?

  • What is the adverse impact of watching porn movies?

  • Why are there legislations in place that children and adolescents are not allowed to watch porn?

  • What do the legislation what to protect?

Objective:

  • Porn is just a form of money making, which focuses on the impulses of man.

  • Porn and masturbation which comes with it ultimately lead to loneliness and the inability to enter into a real relationship.

  • The representations of sex in porn magazines or movies may cause high sexual excitement in boys or men.

  • The excitement urges for relaxation which is often achieved only through masturbation.

  • And even though, the physical body might be relaxed for the time being, the images keep the mind in suspense and once again lead to tension in the abdominal region.

  • It creates a cycle of fantasy pictures and real physical desire, which can increase to the point that people become voyeurs or even rapists.

  • The viewed images and sexual ideas cannot just be wiped off your mind. They can get stuck there for years to come.

    Those images have the power (more or less depending on the individual) to push people more and more into craving and loneliness.

  • Giving in to curiosity is already one step in the wrong direction.

  • Running from it often is the only way out. (For example, if your buddies want to watch a porn movie, you just have to leave even if they laugh about you.

watching porn via smartphone
watching porn via smartphone
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